7. Working with the coachee's own experiences and strengths
As a coach, you can do various exercises with the coachee to help him or her overcome obstacles and achieve goals. In this chapter, two different exercises are explained and described.
If the coachee says, "
I lack self-confidence and perseverance," do the exercise Using my own strengths.
If the coachee says, "
I don't know what I could do or say in that situation," do the exercise "Mental Rehearsal," in which the coachee learns from mental past experiences.
Exercise 'Joining forces
1. Ask the coachee to recall a situation in which he or she would like to be more effective.
2. Ask the coachee questions to clarify the situation.
3. Ask the coachee what he or she would like and expects from the situation.
4. Ask the coachee to make a list of feelings and inner strengths (e.g. self-confidence, perseverance, courage and creativity) needed to achieve the desired result.
5. When the list is complete (five emotions and/or inner forces are enough), ask the coachee to designate a spot on the floor and to imagine an imaginary circle of his or her favourite colour here.
6. Then ask the coachee to recall a situation in which he or she experienced the first emotion/power in the list.
7. Indicate that the intention is for the coachee to relive the situation in his mind with accompanying sounds, images and feelings from that time.
8. Ask the coachee to step into the circle when the situation and feelings have reached their climax.
9. Once the coachee is in the circle, you indicate that the coachee should leave the emotion or inner being in the circle in his own way. When the coachee has done this, he or she may leave the circle.
10. Ask the coachee to blink ten times.
11. Repeat steps 4 to 7 until all emotions have been given a place in the circle.
12. Have the coachee relive in his mind the situation in which he would like to be more effective. Tell the coachee to take a step into the circle in order to experience the situation with all the necessary strengths.
13. Have the coachee step outside the circle and ask what happened when he or she stepped inside.
14. Repeat steps 12 and 13 again.
15. Instruct the coachee to stand in the circle and, with eyes closed, "make the circle his own" so that the emotions/forces will always be available.
Exercise 'Mental rehearsal
Explain to the coachee that he or she can use imagination to predict the outcome of decisions and agreements. The technique involves the coachee imagining the outcome, imagining what will happen and how it will be. The coachee can test 'what if' scenarios and explore potential problems. It is essential that the coachee considers the wider effects, on colleagues, other departments, the organization, clients, family or friends, in order to avoid negative consequences.
1. Ask the coachee to describe an upcoming situation in which he or she does not know what to do.
2. Ask the coachee to imagine different possibilities in action - the coachee should see, hear and feel what it will be like.
3. Ask the coachee to think through the effects of the various possibilities. Ask:
- Whether it benefits the coachee and his interests?
- Is it worth the time and effort?
- What is the effect on others (colleagues, other departments, the organisation, customers, suppliers, family or friends)?
- What can go wrong?
- What is needed to respond to potential problems?
4. Ask the coachee to create a mental scenario of the possible results of the decision chosen by the coachee.
5. Ask the coachee to be as creative as possible and to analyse the scenario in his mind in order to answer the questions in point three.
Practise "Joining forces" several times with friends, family or colleagues.
Practise 'Mental rehearsal' several times with friends, family or colleagues.