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What exactly does the RET method involve?

Often it is not the events themselves that upset us, but the way we think about and deal with these events. The RET method by psychologist Albert Ellis is specifically aimed at learning to deal with these impeding thoughts about events. The idea behind this method is that, with the help of the so-called ABC-scheme and a step-by-step plan, everyone can become more self-assured, with the result that you will be able to deal with events more flexibly and act more decisively when necessary. Have you noticed that you often worry or lie awake for hours when an important decision is about to be made? Then read this blog and find out if the RET method can be useful for you!

What does RET stand for?

The abbreviation RET stands for Rational Emotive Therapy. Central to the RET method is the relationship between thinking and emotions. The ultimate goal of applying this method is to make people more resilient to stressful situations. For example, the method focuses on converting ineffective thoughts and feelings into thoughts and feelings that actually work in a situation that could normally cause stress. In order to achieve this, it is important that you gain insight into how your body and mind work, so that you can better understand your own behaviour. This sounds very nice of course, but how do you achieve this?

The ABC scheme of RET

The ABC-scheme of RET involves an event or trigger for a certain situation (A) about which you have thoughts (B) and these thoughts then have consequences for your behaviour (C). Note: it is important to realise that the RET method assumes that the thoughts (B) are the cause of your behaviour (C) and not that a certain event (A) is the cause of your ultimate behaviour (C). In other words, C is explained by B. Using the ABC diagram, you can then focus on changing your own behaviour in eight different steps. Are you curious about these steps? Then take a look at our training RET: stop worryingin which these steps are extensively discussed.

For whom is the RET method useful?

Do you doubt whether the RET method can be useful for you? Then take a look at the character sketches below to find out if this method is for you:

  • The perfectionist. Thoughts that often come to mind for a perfectionist are: "I am not allowed to make mistakes", or "I fail because I could have done it better".
  • The Disaster Deranger. Disaster people are people who often have the idea and sometimes express the idea that they will not succeed or that they will not finish something in time.
  • The love addict. This type of person always wants to be liked by everyone and everything and therefore finds it difficult to set boundaries, for example.
  • The spoiled brat. This refers to types who are used to everything going well. When this is not the case, they get stressed.

Do you not recognise yourself in the character sketches above? Then the RET method may also be valuable to you! Watch the training below to find out more about this method.

RET Training

Do you think after reading this blog that the RET method might be a solution to your own stress and fretting? Then take a look at our training RET: Stop Worrying. This training not only covers knowledge about the RET method, but you will also immediately start practising cases. This will enable you to be more self-assured, flexible and decisive after the training! Click here to read more about the training or to register directly. link]

This is how you give good advice!

The extent to which your advice is understood, accepted and used depends to a large extent on how you yourself present it. As an advisor you are undoubtedly the specialist in your field, but how do you convince other people of your knowledge and skills? With the tips in this blog you can lift your counselling skills to a higher level!

  • Timing. Try to empathise with the person or persons for whom your advice is intended. Think about where and when you will give the advice. Do you happen to know that someone has a busy week and is stressed? It might be a better idea to wait with your advice.

  • Organisational skills. Don't forget that you are the specialist and try to radiate this. If you want to appear professional, it is a good idea to make sure that your affairs are always in order. Make sure you are not late and do not forget important appointments or documents.
  • Analytical ability. You can only give good advice after you have collected and analysed all the necessary information. That is why you always start by talking to the client. Listen to the client but also ask specific questions. It is important to be aware of the situation so that you can give targeted advice.
  • Think ahead. Advice is changeable. If you want to become or remain a good consultant, it is important to keep your eyes and ears open. Is something changing in your field of expertise? Are there things that should be taken into account in the future? As an adviser, it is important that you keep abreast of the new trends and developments in your professional field.
  • Communicating. The way you communicate plays a major role in ensuring that your advice is taken to heart. Therefore, pay attention to what kind of person or organisation you are dealing with and try to adapt your way of communicating accordingly. In addition, make sure that the customer for whom the advice is intended feels comfortable with you. For example, ask the person if there are any issues they would like to raise before the consultation, or offer a drink during the meeting.
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